Cats and dogs were not something that were
a part of our household when I was a child. We just weren’t a family that did
pets. My husband’s family was the complete opposite. With them, there was
always a dog around. Scott still remembers each one with affectionate
familiarity. He’s talked about them enough through the years that even though I
never met them, I know who he’s talking about when he mentions names like Champ
or Mickey. Scott has always loved his animals.
Earlier this year Scott found himself face
to face with a stray cat that had been injured and it broke his heart. The
bloody eye of this cat was so dark you couldn’t even see its outline in the
black fur. After several attempts and with a little help from his friends, Scott
was finally able to trap the poor thing and take her to the veterinarian. Afterwards,
we kept her in our bathroom for several days while we administered medicine. She
was improving, then one day she was acting funny. We wondered if her infection
had spread or if she’d developed some other medical issue as a result of the
initial trauma. Well, surprise! The next morning when I peeked in the bathroom
to check on her, she was not alone. There were three tiny kittens in the sink
with her.
We had no idea she was pregnant. The veterinarian
hadn’t said anything about it either. All we could think was, “what do we do
now?” We finally resolved that she and her new litter needed to stay in our
bathroom until she’d weaned the kittens, which turned out to be eight weeks of
four felines in that bathroom.
I, being the never-had-a-pet child, was a
little overwhelmed. Scott fell in love with those little fur babies immediately, so it was hard for him when all
three kittens were adopted into wonderful and happy forever homes. We knew,
however, that adoption was best for all the humans and the kittens.
Sometime during these kitten-filled weeks,
Scott took a couple of days to go with his father and sister to begin cleaning
out his childhood home in the upstate. They unloaded the attic and went through
boxes in storage buildings out back. He brought back some adorable baby
pictures, reminders of his childhood, and thoughts about his own adoption.
He was adopted by the Davises when he was
29 days old. He’s always considered Lloyd and Lois his real mom and dad and has
always loved them as such. Just like I know the stories of Mickey and Champ,
I’m also reminded of the story about how excited Lois was the day she received
the call at work that there was a baby boy in Charleston that was now was hers.
This week marks the tenth anniversary of Lois’ death. Birth, adoption, life and
death are the things that have been on all our minds lately. I am so thankful
to have become part of a family that loves and accepts, as their own, others
that were originally born to other mothers.
God set the example for this kind of
choice, acceptance, and love. In Ephesians, the apostle Paul declares praise to
God for loving us and choosing us. He goes on to explain that God made a
decision to adopt us, even before we were born.
Child adoptions these days involve
attorneys. There must be legal documents outlining stipulations, bearing proper
signatures, and filings with the appropriate agencies. The benefit of going
through all that effort, beyond bringing a new child home, is that you now have
proof. It eliminates most of the uncertainties of where home is.
Of course God didn’t have to use an
attorney for our adoption, but it did cost Him something. God is perfect and
sinless, and therefore we humans, who are not perfect or sinless, wouldn’t be
able to live with God without some kind of mediation. So, God sends his
perfect, sinless son, Jesus, to earth. Jesus then takes on all our sin and it
kills him, but Jesus overcomes death. The thing that would have kept us from
living with God has been eliminated. The adoption is final.
What does adoption mean to an adult? We’ve
pretty much figured out how to eat and bathe on our own by now. We’ve learned
how to read and walk. We don’t need parents for that anymore. Instead, the things that would make a
difference in an adopted adult’s life are things like love, belonging, and
inheritance. I think those are the things God wants us to know we already
possess.
As an adult, however, we have a choice in
letting ourselves be adopted. Choosing to allow God to be our father means
believing that all the effort He went through to have us close to Him was worth
it. It means that everything that’s His will become ours. It means we believe “he
chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in
his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus
Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—to the praise of his glorious
grace, which he has freely given us in the one he loves. In him we have
redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the
riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us.” (Ephesians 1:4-7)
To the praise of His glorious grace,
indeed.
This was originally published July 23, 2017 on The Press and Standard website.